RSVP on a wedding invitation means the hosts are asking you to reply and confirm whether you will attend. In Malay, a clear way to say it is “Sila sahkan kehadiran”. Your answer helps the family plan food, seating and the guest list.
For guests, the main job is to reply before the deadline and give an accurate number. For hosts, the main job is to make those instructions easy to follow.
How to reply to a wedding RSVP
Use the form, link or contact number on the invitation. If there is a form, fill it in even if you have already spoken to the couple. This helps them keep the replies together.
- Check the wedding date and time.
- Confirm whether you will attend.
- If attending, give the total number of invited people coming, including yourself.
- Send your reply before the deadline.
- Contact the hosts promptly if your plans change.
Be clear about how many people are coming
If you and your partner are attending, your total is two. If the invitation includes your family, check how the hosts want children counted. Avoid writing “with family” when the form asks for a number.
An invitation does not always include a plus one. If the names or number are unclear, ask the hosts before adding another person. A quick check is easier than leaving the hosts to adjust their plans later.
A reply when you can attend
Use the total number covered by your invitation. If you need to ask about access, dietary arrangements or timing, use the contact details on the card rather than assuming the RSVP form covers those questions.
Attendance reply
Thank you for inviting us. I’m [name], and I’m happy to confirm that [number] of us will attend, including me. We look forward to celebrating with you on [wedding date].
A reply when you cannot attend
A decline is still a useful reply. Send it by the deadline so the hosts can plan. You can keep the reason brief or leave it out if you prefer.
Declining politely
Thank you for thinking of me. I’m sorry I won’t be able to attend on [wedding date]. Wishing you a wonderful celebration and a happy marriage.
What to put in your RSVP request
Give guests a deadline, a way to reply and a clear request for the number attending. If different family members are sending invitations, agree on one place to record the responses.
RSVP wording for your invitation
Please confirm your attendance by [RSVP date] using [invitation link]. Let us know the total number attending, including yourself. For questions, contact [name and number].
Set a deadline around your headcount needs
Ask your caterer or venue when they need the final guest count. Choose an RSVP deadline that leaves you time to check the replies and contact guests who have not answered.
Send a friendly reminder before the deadline. Keep confirmed attendance separate from guests who have not replied. A lack of response is not a reliable yes or no.
Keep phone, WhatsApp and form replies together
Choose one guest list as your main record. Include the name, attendance status and party size. Check for duplicate replies before confirming the final number with your venue.
Reception.my includes an RSVP form on published invitations. Guests can reply without an account, and hosts can review responses in the dashboard. RSVP limits and guest list export depend on the package you choose.
Common questions
Should I reply if I cannot attend?
Yes. Declining helps the hosts plan an accurate guest count.
Can I change my RSVP?
Contact the hosts as soon as your plans change. Use the contact details in the invitation and make sure they have received the update.
Does an RSVP reserve a plus one?
Only if the hosts have included that person in your invitation. Ask if you are unsure before submitting your guest count.